approaching therapy

musings as they come, and as they evolve …

difficult?

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There is nothing in this world more difficult than another person

– Buddhist Monk.

Found that at the top of an article by Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in The Therapist, called “Marital Therapy and the Psychobiology of Turning Toward and Turning Away.” January/February 2005 p. 58.

What’s so difficult? I ask people, “what’s really the problem?”
Reminds me of when people tell me their partner has a problem.
Is it really their partner who has the problem? The partner might not say so.
Are you having a problem with your partner’s “problem”?

Again, what’s really the problem?
According to my understanding of the Buddhist perspective,
perhaps the problem is the difficulty with being with the sensations that arise in us, when we are in the presence of another person, or when someone says something to us, or when something goes down between us and someone else.

So, it’s not really the other person.
It’s just sensations.
Sensations in us.

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Written by David

February 17th, 2010 at 9:45 pm

Posted in couples,individuals

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